Step 1 - Think about what happened. ( I think about it alot )
Step 2 - Acknowledge all of your feelings. There is often anger lurking behind any hurt or sadness you might feel. ( oh I know that I am angry )
Step 3 - Express your feelings - write them out, talk to a friend or simply allow yourself to feel what you feel. ( very hard to do, I keep feelings bottled up, dont show how I feel )
Step 4 - Accept responsibility for your own emotions. Although you were wronged and your emotions may be justified, it is still up to you to decide when you're ready to stop feeling angry or upset. ( I am less and less upset and angry everyday )
Step 5 - Talk to the other person about the behavior that upset you and how it made you feel. The odds are that you won't feel truly ready to forgive until you know this person has heard and understood your perspective. ( I have done this but they didnt hear me , they didnt care to )
Step 6 - Try to understand the other person's perspective, even if you don't really agree with it. ( I will never understand )
Step 7 - Rebuild trust in the relationship. Make agreements about acceptable future behavior whenever appropriate. ( No relationship Left )
Step 8 - Make the decision to forgive, and communicate your forgiveness to the other person. Once you've done this, make every effort to move on and let it go completely.
( still working on letting it go, only for myself to move on )
Even tho there isnt a relationship now there cant ever be another until I can forgive what happened and only for myself why should anyone else pay for the mistakes that someone else did. Trust is a very fragile!!! Right now I dont trust anyone any farther than I can see them...
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